How to talk to your worries and anxiety
When worries and fearful thoughts take over your mind, it can feel overwhelming and hard to ignore. The dwell on difficulty or troubles can cloud your mind, and it could feel hard to think clearly. This mental cloud can make it challenging to move forward in your life, and you can feel stuck.
Growing worries that trigger overthinking can turn into anxiety. One thing that anxiety thrives in is repetition. When you feel anxious, you can sense fear in situations or people that make you feel insecure and uncertain. People cope with worry because they become obsessed with planning, timely schedules, and organizing.
Your worries are why you feel insecure and fearful, not the actual situation you face, but you have convinced yourself about the first one. Worrying has been tricking you into believing that you stop worrying by being in control. You have convinced yourself that if you plan, schedule, and organize things, you will get your desired outcome.
But guess what? This is not sustainable as most things in life are outside your command. Your limiting belief puts you in a predicament that constrains your wellbeing, only to feel safe and confident when you feel in control. In reality, you barely control most circumstances and external factors like your environment, weather, politics, coworkers, family, finances, a virus, the economy…
If you remove your limiting beliefs and most of your stress and anxious feeling will calm down. These beliefs are the cause of your unsettling mental state. Every time you reaffirm an idea that feeds your fears, you are holding back your happiness and wellbeing. If you don’t stop, they will continue to do it in your future.
Recently a friend said to me: It’s better to be safe than sorry. This is a common belief that a lot of people hold as true. Without knowing, my friend is keeping herself in fear and feeding her worries by sustaining this belief. This position was keeping her worried and anxious about a lot of personal problems in her life.
A useless and limiting belief can be responsible for many of your anxieties, sleepless nights, and unhappiness. Here are some manifestations that translate from this specific belief that it is better to be safe than sorry.
- I must know the result before I become involved
- I’m not too fond of this; there must be something wrong with this.
- If it’s not perfect, do not bother with it.
- I have to feel confident before I can start and learn a new skill.
Looking at these statements, can you see how these assumptions and opinions will limit your life?
We all have beliefs that limit us from thriving. If you want to look at the ideas that keep you worried, fearful, stressed, and insecure, listen to your inner dialogue. Start today, paying attention to the words you use when you stop yourself from doing something based on fear.
This belief about being better to be safe than sorry is an excellent example of a limiting belief. Feeling not safe links directly to your mental health and manifests in feeling frequently doubtful, insecure, and hesitant. Removing a limiting belief can hold the key to reducing your stress and letting go of so much planning and rigidity in your life.
Instead of feeding your fears, learn to talk to your anxiety. Use an alternative inner voice that is grounded in trust and not in avoiding feeling sorry. You can use a mantra or phrase that measures that feeling insecure and doubtful does not mean anything wrong.
Become ware when you stop doing something because you are fearful and unsure about the outcome. Look at the possible consequences of not going how you expect them. Ince you have thought about the unwanted effects, do it anyway.
Once you have taken action and you came across the other side, you will feel good for being brave and embracing your fears. Talk to your anxiety and feelings every day to tame them.
Here is a phrase that you can use to help you get started:
” I can step forward into a threatening situation, and I will be able to handle it.”
We must be willing to let go of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.
— Joseph Campbell
What plans do you need to let go of to keep your inner peace?