Happiness is not about the absence of problems

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We are all deeply invested in our happiness. We all care about the happiness of those we love. If you are like me and you want to be happy for good, you better get right what real happiness is.

I used to believe that in order for me to be happy, my life had to be easier. I don’t know from where I developed this ridiculous idea that I could not be happy until my problems where over.

I was mostly unhappy and feeling stuck. I was waiting for a great solution that was going to make things perfect for me. My happiness was conditioned to waiting for people to change. I was expecting that my life circumstances had to be different so I could stay happy.

That was the past. Now I have a new mindset. A new definition of happiness.

Happiness is about me

My happiness is not about external factors. I learned that to stay happy I have to focus on a different perspective. I’m the only one in control of my happiness.

Happiness is about positive relationships

Being happy is finding and doing meaningful work. Making a positive impact in the lives of others. Creating moments to nurture love and affection. Making more loving connections.

Happiness is about finding gratitude in everything

My happiness now is about valuing what I have. Paying attention to the goodness and gifts. It is about learning from the negative and turning it into a positive. Creating a deep sense of well-being.

Happiness is found in the present moment

My problems, worries, and challenges are still here and I’m happy. I have learned to make peace with them and stop resisting.

Happiness is about embracing imperfections

My life is not perfect and it will never be. I’m imperfect and that is ok. Others don’t need to change. My circumstances don’t need to be different. I have decided to embrace life as is.

“You don’t always need a particular reason to be happy and in such moments of happiness you meet the real happiness!”
― Mehmet Murat ildan

One question

What is your definition of happiness?

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